I have tried my best not to post anything about anti-gay groups because there was a time when I was always posting articles with my opinions and it was raising my blood pressure.  For my own safety, I thought it was best to ignore those articles out of fear of having a heart attack.  Tonight I cannot hold back because what I read was just so awful that I cannot keep my opinion to myself.

I was browsing the home page of Facebook and came across this one post from Wipeout Homophobia on Facebook.  Just sharing the post wasn’t enough when I actually read the article for ‘Ex-Gay’ Group Propagandizes Maryland High School.  Whoever wrote that article, Ron Kemp, posted a link to the actual flier that was the subject of the whole thing.  This ex-gay group put this flier into the report cards of every student at Albert Einstein High School in Maryland.  So not only were the students subjected to such hatred and homophobia, their parents were as well.  If the students were not gay, it is a very good chance that the parents might suspect them of being gay and possibly do harm to them.  Let’s hope this is not the result of this groups disgusting action.

I want to break down the actual flier and talk about each paragraph, but before I do that let me just say how disgusting it is of them to involve children in this whole thing.  It is one thing for them to push their hatred onto adults, but to involve children is a low that I don’t think Satan himself would go.  Let’s begin shall we.

“Ex-gays demonstrate that those with unwanted same-sex attractions can seek help and information on overcoming their feelings.”

Who, but they, determines that those feelings are unwanted?  I had same-sex feelings ever since I was at least five years old.  They were not unwanted because it never even occurred to me that it was wrong.  Granted I never saw any same-sex couples and I thought I was alone in the world, but never once did I think that those feelings were unwanted.

“All individuals deserve the right to self-determination and happiness based on their own needs, and not the needs of others.”

Can I just call BS on that one?  Aren’t they are doing exactly the opposite of what they are saying.  Yes, all individuals deserve the right to their own self-determination and happiness.  So if they are self-determined and happy, why butt into their lives like this and tell them that they should be an ex-gay?

The first sentence is total BS because same-sex attractions are not unwanted until someone tells them that they shouldn’t want them.  It is up to the individual to decide if it is wanted or not.

“However, there are those in society who refuse to respect an individual’s right to self-determination”

There is that word again, self-determination.  And yet again I have to point out that they are doing the opposite of what they are saying.  These people are refusing to respect gay people’s RIGHT to self-determination by saying they should not be gay.

Those last two sentences are just stupid.  Ex-gays are denied equal access?  You mean like they are being denied equal access to loving the person they have feelings for perhaps?  They are forced to remain silent for fear of negative reactions and disapproval?  I think these people are just pulling words out of their asses at this point.  If a person chooses to not be gay, that is their right and the only one who is denying them anything is groups like this who tell them how they should live and who they should love.  That is denying them access.

“… there are no replicated scientific studies to support that a person can be born “gay.”  No “gay gene” or a gay center of the brain has been found.  No medical test exists to determine of a person is homosexual.  Sexual orientation is based on feeling as is a matter of self-affirmation and public declaration.”

Prove it.  Prove to me that there is no “gay gene” or that sexuality is based on feeling.  As I said a few paragraphs ago, I have been gay since I was a child.  I know for a fact that I was born gay because there was never a time in my whole entire existence when I decided that I wanted to be gay, I just knew that I had an attraction to the same-sex.  I never saw any same-sex couples holding hands or kissing, but I just knew that I was attracted to the same sex.  How does a five-year-old child decide that he wanted to be gay when there were no other gay people to get that idea from?  I don’t need a medical test or a scientific study to tell me how I was born, I just know in my heart that I was born that way.

“Some teens are labeled “gay” or other names even though they do not have same-sex attractions.  Appearance is not a reliable means to know what another person feels.  No one should be labeled based on the perception of others.  Name calling is wrong because the victim may begin to believe what others tell them about themselves, which may be completely false labeling and cause gender confusion.”

When I was in junior high school, I was bullied by the other school kids.  They called me a faggot and a queer.  I looked just like everybody else did; I wore the same clothes that the other students had.  I didn’t walk gay, act gay or talk gay, and in fact I tried my hardest to act butch because I still to that very day thought that I was the only gay person on the planet.  I tried to act as straight as I could, but I was still bullied and called those names.  That is not what turned me gay because as I mentioned twice now, I knew I was gay already.

This is the last one I promise.

These people really need to mind their own business.  Who are they to tell children how they should identify?  Having feelings of same sex-attraction is their own business and none of PFOX’s.  How a person identifies themselves is a very personal matter and should be left to that individual.  They need to as they say “GET SMART!” and stop pushing their hatred onto CHILDREN!  You cannot compare the decision of a prom date, a car or even whether to super-size your food at a fast food restaurant with how you identify yourself.  It is not the same thing.  ”Important decisions should not be made on feelings alone.”  Excuse me?  Yes they should.

If I have feelings for a person, I should be with that person. I am not going to marry someone I don’t have feelings for just because they are the opposite-sex because THEY tell me that I should be straight.  Should you be with someone of the same-sex even though you are not gay?  No you shouldn’t.  So don’t tell these CHILDREN that they should be with someone they don’t want to be with.  They need to go with their FEELINGS and do what makes them feel good.

Every decision we make determines what kind of person we become.  Whether it is a good decision or a bad decision, it is what makes us human.  We are only in this life for a short time.  Why do things that we don’t want to do just because these bigots think it’s wrong?  Why not live our lives the way we decide is appropriate for our own sake.  If our decisions are not going to hurt anyone else, then we need to do what is right for us because that is what our feelings are telling us to do.

I suggest that PFOX take a good hard look at what they are doing and realize that they are not being very appropriate.  Involving children is not the right thing to do.  It’s pretty messed up if you ask me.  Go pick on someone your own size you big bully!

*steps off of my soapbox*